I would suggest using an incremental technology database. What that means is rather than attaching your design library to the technology library, use the reference option instead. This means that you have a technology file in your design library, but one that is mostly blank and will inherit from the technology library.
You can then set up your coinstraint group (either by editing the dumped ASCII tech file from your library, modifying, and re-loading, and then saving the tech file), or by using the Process Rule Editor in the constraint manager in VLS XL.
Regards,
Andrew.