Maybe this is how it is done, maybe I just stumbled onto something.......
After I assign the 10 shapes around the connector to the "GND" net, I was expecting to see a ratsnest that I could clikc on and route from. Didn't have one. Since I have spent close to three hour on this, my frustration level is climbing so I just tried Route - Connect, clicked on the shape and made a short trace, double clicked to insert a via and the connection was made to the GND plane!
I tried the same thing on a shape that did not have any net associated with it. It allowed me to route a trace and place a via, but no connection was made to either plane (which I would expect).
So it looks like assigning the shape to a net and the MANUALLY putting in a trace from the shape to a via will connect it to the gnd plane. (I would really like the via in the shape, I'll try that also)
I don't know if this will remain when a new netlist is loaded, but I'm hoping it stays.